Sex – my playful take on a basic fact of life

Let us be frank:

Everybody and the grandmother is thinking about sex.

Even the Pope does, i guess ;  )

As adolescents we dream about it (wet)

And later on we can not wait to have sex (unfortunately)

And when we have it we want more of it (its addictive)

And it feeds a whole industry nowadays (Pornhub)

And the oldest of professions (callgirls aka prostitutes)

Also the doctors have their share
(treating STDs aka sexually transmitted diseases)

Its not our fault!

It is biological!

dogs do it

and rabbits

and Bonobo monkeys do it a lot

even more often than us … human monkeys ;  )

just look at the world’s population explosion

even a child can figure out that all those people must come from somewhere

… mama & daddy having sex or something ;  )

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Here some spontaneous thoughts about sex:

sex is great!
(if it’s a good sex)

sex is boring
(if it is repetitive)

sex is degrading
(if it is undesired)

sex is devastating
(if it is forced)

sex is healthy

good for the nerves
(they relax in orgasm)

good for the hormonal balance
(women’s skin tend to glow after good sex, eyes shine)

good for detox
(it makes you sweat)

good for relationships
(a good glue to hold couples together)

good for fighting couples
(after sex all is fine again and forgotten)

good for married couples who normally don’t talk much with each other 
(“do you want to share a cigarette?” ;  )

good for humankind
(well, without some sex we would not be here, after all!!!)

But hey! Maybe sex is not so good for the planet after all!

No sex, no overpopulation, no population at all!

No industrial pollution, no passports, no visas, no borders!

World Peace at last :  )

Hold on, i hope you know i am only kidding here.

I called this “my playful take on sex, ok!!!!”

So, seriously now please (a little bit)!

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SEX – what to do about this basic fact of life?

Obviously sex can be more than Bonobo monkey-ish copulation.

Copulation being just the lowest level of sexual energy working in bodies.

The most basic mechanical and unconscious drive to procreation for the survival of the species.

The excitement of specific nerves that inspire certain glands to excrete hormones and fluids and lead to certain repetitive actions ;  ) …..  rubbing and pushing and sweating and sounds and a almost unstoppable drive to reach a …. climax (aka, the frantic rush of male sperm trying to get to the female’s egg) 

If this sounds a bit flat and mechanical now, forgive me por favor!

But for the multitude of youngsters (mostly male) who grow up nowadays on the internet, this is what they learn (from Pornhub)

And that’s not a joke.

Because this is the blueprint that they will reproduce with their “girlfriends” as soon as they can.

Nobody teaches the growing up’s to be grownups when it comes to sex.

Not most of the parents and certainly not the sex-ed teachers in school.

Nobody tells them the nuances and deeper mysteries of sex.

And about sexual energy as such.

The eternal play of shiva/shakti in Creation.

And how to utilize and use this fact in the highest form in human relationships.

I am not a fan of the whole new-age Neo-Tantra movement, i think it is – more often than not – very rather shallow excuse to get some sexual activity going.

But it is a fact that in the Taoistic and Tantric Traditions of the East there are a couple thousand years of experience, wisdom and methods about other ways to deal with sexual energy than we have practiced in the “civilized world”.

“Sexual energy?”, you ask: “What you talking about?”

Ok, here a fun little primer on magnetic attraction (aka sex) (for 3.graders ; )

Please don’t take this all-too-serious!!!!!

But i think that there is much to discover if two people seriously set out to explore this specific magnetic field.

Of negative and positive charges.

Of yin and yang.

Shakti and shiva energies.

Male-ness and Female-ness
(may it be in opposite-sex, same-sex or optional-sex relations)

But at the end of the day (and conclusion of this playful contemplation about sex) i know this to be true:

I love sex.

When it is full of feeling the other.

When it is a vehicle for deep intimacy.

When it is slow and full of awareness.

When it is expanding the field of consciousness for both of us.

When it brings us into a silence space of wonder and gratitude for each other.

When it lets us taste unity and oneness.

For me that is the promise of sex.

And i know that we are not there yet, most of the time we miss to reach this promised land.

But it is worth trying and exploring ways to get there.

Don’t you think?

Or what do you think?

ps: Here some really helpful books on the issue of having enlightened sex:

Feel free to download.